Crystal Chappell Defends Ex-DAYS Co-Star Melissa Reeves: "The Person We Know and Love...is NOT a Bigot"




 


Gay advocate Crystal Chappell has come out to defend her former Days Of Our Lives co-star Melissa Reeves, following Reeves'   controversial Twitter support of Chick-Fil-A Appreciation Day. In a blog post entitled, "Missy", Chappell shared what happened when she contacted mutual gay and married friends of Reeves. Here's an excerpt:

 

I reached out to our gay and married friends. Missy had called them in tears soon after the shit hit the fan. She told them how much she loved them and that the implication of that tweet was not what she intended. She said she saw half a tweet about Cluck Filet and thought she was supporting Free Speech. Nothing more. I thought...OK. Um....twitter fuck up? I've stepped into twitter convoys without really knowing what was being talked about and made a mess for myself unintentionally. Realizing after I stepped into it that I don’t at all support the person's words I stood up for. OK....it happens. And then I asked our gay and married friends...well, why not just say that to the folks in twitter land? Was someone telling her not to? Is it work related? Ostrich in the sand syndrome? If I don’t see it, it doesn’t exist kind of thing? Blonde moment? The more time went by the more frustrated I and my friends became. It started to hurt. We all know Missy has very strong religious beliefs but the person we know and love....is NOT a bigot.

Really? Reeves "thought she was supporting Free Speech. Nothing More"? So Reeves wasn't at all aware that Chick-fil-A is at the center of a heated, national gay rights debate, or that the reason Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day even existed was to support COO Dan Cathy, following his declaration in the press of support for "traditional marriage"? Sorry, but I cry foul with this explanation. To read the rest of Chappell's defense of Reeves, click here.

 


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@Katheryn71: The question you should ask is why did I link the story. See that is problem. You don't ask questions you just assume. Which how this whole thing gets out of hand in the first place. People act on emotion and not intelligence.

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realitycheck, i find it funny that your name is reality check yet you say that Missy has made an apology that does not exist. ironically, you need a reality check.

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@david46208 Yes, when celebrities attack me, as a gay person they do affect my life and the lives of people I care about. Society won't change until each one of us individually is more inclusive/accepting but when people like Missy who have access to legions of fans continue to put negative feelings out towards gays in the universe things will never change! Sticking your head in the sand ignoring it doesn't do anything for the dead gay kids who killed themselves because people like Missy think it's cool to put out tweets like that. It doesn't do anything for the kids who are on the edge of killing themselves either but if someone likes Missy says "It's okay! I'm sorry. I F'd up!" it could do wonders.

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She doesnt believe in gay marriage why is everyone giving her such a hard time

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News Flash: Not everyone knows everything that you do.
I DID NOT KNOW ABOUT CHICK FIL'A APPRECIATION DAY BEING ABOUT SUPPORTING THAT CEO & HIS BELIEFS UNTIL I CAME ON HERE! and Jamey told me about it.
And guess what, I believe that she could have not known about it as well. It is a POSSIBILITY. And to deny otherwise is absurd.
Either way it goes I seriously doubt that she knew what she was getting into when she made that comment... and if it was me & I got all the backlash, I would have spoken out about it & clarified what I meant... But I can see how someone would prefer to bury their head in the sand, by blocking ppl left & right, & wait until things blew over.

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I wish people could really see what the chick fil a day was really about. Its not about gay marriage, or freedom of speech it was a day to show hatred and bigotry to a fellow group of humans. I honestly worry about the slippery slope we are on, people rallied around Hitler as well when he spoke about lessening the rights of the Jews.

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@david46208: I didn't have to ask why you linked the article, but why don't you tell us all what was your motivation anyway. Should be good.

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I will believe Crystal Chappell's opinion about Melissa who has known her for years rather than the opinion of a bunch of random posters and tweeters who have never meet Melissa.

Melissa might not have publicly said anything after her initial tweet, but according to Crystal she did explain herself to the people who matter in her life. That's what really matters.

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@GaryJr: When did a celebrity attack you? You see now you are making up excuses for the way some are acting. Think about what you just said in your opening statement. The problem lies right there.

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I don't agree with her at all, but it's clear to me that she was bullied into shutting down her twitter account for expressing an opinion that differs from many of yours.

A lot of people should be ashamed of themselves.

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@Katheryn71: Thanks! I'll be glad to. There was 2 fold point to posting that link to the article.

#1: It is to show that people who discuss that one can (in this allegedly) inadvertently support something that they believe does harm can also inadvertently cause people to act out in ways that are far more negative than the alleged meaning of a comment. Which means the death and physical threats against Missy should be taken seriously. It also means that people need to check their emotions before going all half-cocked acting on feeling and not intelligence.

#2: It was to see how quickly someone would respond the way you did. Thankfully one poster got the message quickly and responded in kind.

#3: Yes there is another one. It was to see how quickly the witch hunt e would begin. And it doesn't seem to take long for people to start engaging in the "Herd Mentality" or "Group thinking."

But what one realizes is that in every conversation on this subject (and i'm speaking for myself) I have been attacked when I have been nothing but gracious and respectful in my responses pointing to facts. Not an alleged "idea on things."

So it is sad state when one is only willing to look the reality in-which they want to see it even when there are no facts and no concrete evidence to back it up, only speculation which has amounted to slander.

Remember THE DUKE LACROSSE CASE!

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@GaryJr: When did a celebrity attack you? You see now you are making up excuses for the way some are acting. Think about what you just said in your opening statement. The problem lies right there.

I'm gay. Melissa supports an anti-gay organization that promotes oppression and MURDER. IE Melissa doesn't support me. Melissa does not want me to get married to my partner. Stop playing these ignorant word games. You keep claiming again and again she was in the dark BUT AGAIN her latest PUBLIC TWEET NOTES that she's closing her account because people DISAGREE WITH HER & some of those people have issued death threats. I doubt the people who supported her are issuing death threats so that means she disagrees with the people who are issuing the threats: ie those sinful gays! This conversation is mind numbing its like screaming for help in a bottomless pit.

Jamey how much longer are we going to have to listen to this?

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Chick-Fil-A promotes murder? And that doesn't sound hysterical to you? Wow.

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@david46208: Ah, it was a test. I see. In the spirit of the Olympics I'll have to give you a 2 for originality, but you get a 10 for bullshit.

For the record. I'm not a Days viewer and Melissa Reeves means nothing to me. I haven't said anything good or bad about or to her. I really don't care for her variety of Christian, but there are people further up the hatred food chain that concern me more than a random actress.

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Chick-Fil-A promotes murder? And that doesn't sound hysterical to you? Wow.

It's not hysterical. It's fact. CFA donates money directly to organizations that LOBBY FOR THE MURDER/EXECUTION of gay people in other countries.

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GaryJr, do you have a link to stories about this or something I can see for myself. This is the first I'm seeing this.

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You people are fucking nuts comparing MR to Hitler.
She has not called for all gays to be put in a gas chamber.
Who cares if she doesn't believe in gay marriage?
Get over it.
I am sorry but she doesn't deserve this nonsense.
SIck of hearing about this shit.

And no I am not anti gay. I just don't care. To each his own.

But if someone doesn't believe in what gay people preach the rest of the gay community attack with venom.

zzzzzzzzz

I don't know why I'm bothering to dialogue with you because you're clearly unhinged with reality if you can't see the connection between people like you who don't care if gay people are killed, gassed, tied to fences, raped and beaten to death because you're not gay & you're not a very compassionate person. But as a humane person I do care when people support organizations that hurt other people whether they're gay straight black green ugly or Greek. I guess that's the difference between compassionate people like Deidre Hall and selfish "doesn't affect me so why should I care" people like you.

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All I heard is they don't support gay marriage. Donate money to organization in support of executing gays? I don't buy that nonsense.

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TVGord, Greg's column on Huff post had links but if you Google it you can find hundreds of articles.

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GaryJr wrote:

You people are fucking nuts comparing MR to Hitler.
She has not called for all gays to be put in a gas chamber.
Who cares if she doesn't believe in gay marriage?
Get over it.
I am sorry but she doesn't deserve this nonsense.
SIck of hearing about this shit.

And no I am not anti gay. I just don't care. To each his own.

But if someone doesn't believe in what gay people preach the rest of the gay community attack with venom.

zzzzzzzzz

Keep preaching from your soapbox. Where did I say I don't care if gays are killed? You are embellishing something that I didn't even say. I said I don't buy that Melissa or Chick Fil A have supported wanting gays to be executed. You are being outlandish turning the non support of gay marriage into something much more despicable. Like someone said to you earlier where is your proof? Find me proof that they believe gays should be murdered otherwise shut up.

I don't know why I'm bothering to dialogue with you because you're clearly unhinged with reality if you can't see the connection between people like you who don't care if gay people are killed, gassed, tied to fences, raped and beaten to death because you're not gay & you're not a very compassionate person. But as a humane person I do care when people support organizations that hurt other people whether they're gay straight black green ugly or Greek. I guess that's the difference between compassionate people like Deidre Hall and selfish "doesn't affect me so why should I care" people like you.

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I don't know who Greg is, and I'm not going on a wild goose chase on google. If you can't supply the link, so be it. I'm not from Toledo, but you still have to show me. I'm from Canada, where the Weekly World News used to make up stories and print them as real, saying they happened "in Canada", and they were completely fabricated. I need proof before I believe accusations of murder.

Anyway, regardless of what Chick-Fil-A has done, do you really think Reeves was well-versed in all of their practices before she tweeted in support of free speech? Don't you see how out of control this has gotten? Even if she is opposed to gay marriage, it doesn't mean she supports murder. This has just gotten so hysterical, I can't believe all of the hate that I'm reading here.

I don't agree with those who oppose gay marriage, but I'm almost literally sickened by the vitriol I'm seeing on here from the side I DO support. You all make it hard to separate YOUR insanity from THEIRS!

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TV Gord: You can click on Melissa Reeves name in the tags to this post and then look at the comments to the original post about her tweet and you will find the information about what organizations CFA donates their money to and what those organizations do with that money.

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@TV Gord: 100% Agree. Now you are someone who is also using intelligence and not emotion.

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Look. It's not my responsibility to click on links and go hunting. When someone asks me for a link, I post a link. This isn't the only thing I'm doing today.

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Gord, you're looking foolish here. This isn't about random gossip, it's about the fact that CFA's COO donated to a group that supports a law making being gay a capital crime in Uganda. Perhaps, you know, worth a little effort.

Also, is no one else going to talk about how screwed up hey mon's comment that gay men can't be Boy Scout leaders is? Wow. I guess that one slipped by most people.

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bishbay wrote:
Gord, you're looking foolish here. This isn't about random gossip, it's about the fact that CFA's COO donated to a group that supports a law making being gay a capital crime in Uganda. Perhaps, you know, worth a little effort.

And you think Reeves knew this when she tweeted in support of free speech?

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Katheryn71 wrote:
Okay, TV Gord.

http://equalitymatters.org/factcheck/555-555501

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/01/chick-fil-a-donated-anti-gay-groups-2009_n_555-5555.html

Perfect. Thanks. Just as I'm hitting the road, but I'll read them the next chance I get. Smile

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To me the real story, two weeks later, has not much to do with Melissa Reeves' ill-conceived tweet and subsequent silence, but with Crystal Chappell's decision to say something on the subject and the manner in which she did it. From my point of view as someone who has kept up with her exploits (appropriately enough, a word closely linguistically related to exploitation) since the long-gone Otalia days, her being feted as some Great Gay Advocate fascinates me.

Reading Chappell's twitter exchanges last evening after the publication of this blog was highly entertaining. She appeared to be on quite the high from the triumph of her not-so-timely entrance into the fray. Would she have ever said anything had her lap-dog Nelson Branco - a person even more given to magnificent gaffes and pot-stirring than anyone else in this story - not dragged her into it? His own ill-worded tweets a week ago seemed to imply that CC and most others in the Soap world had failed to step up to the plate with a statement on the CFA debacle. CC reacted quite negatively. (He quickly bowed and scraped his way back out of the hole with a flailing assurance that he wasn't talking about CC! No, no, no! CC IS gay rights. No, Mr. Branco, she is not. But I'm glad for your sake that CC added you back to those she follows. I'm sure you're relieved.)

In last night's exchanges CC also agreed with those who said that MR should not have blocked those who were politely trying to point out why her tweet in support of CFA was, to say the least, problematic for so many of her fans. CC said she herself is the type to face her problems, not one to hide from them. Indeed? That is most interesting to read, since I am personally acquainted with many who, when they politely and concisely expressed why the representation of GLB folk on CC's webseries Venice was problematic for them, were summarily blocked by CC.

Let me see if I can list all the ways that CC has earned her mythical status as The Great Gay Advocate: She produced three seasons of a websoap where women makeout with other women. Check. She jumped on the bandwagon with the NOH8 photoshoot. Check. She produced a thankfully short-lived mini-webseries called "Straight Girls Guide to Gay Bars" wherein she could invade gay space and combine her favorite pastimes of gawking at the gays and swilling alcohol while learning about "the three types of lesbians." (An evening that Hillary B. Smith enthused about by saying that she loves to hang out with the "Lesbos.") Uh . . . check. She explicitly and venomously singled out former Otalia fans for blame when it came to sinking subscription numbers for Venice. Uh. . . hmm. She promised before Venice even started that, unlike GL's mistake of making everything about Good Man Frank instead of Olivia and Natalia, that Venice would be a gift to the Otalia fans, that there would be no babies, and that the main character of her series, Gina, would be an out and proud lesbian who had known she was a lesbian "forever." But . . . then she specifically wrote a part into Venice for Peter Reckell as not only Gina's former boyfriend, but the father of a secret love child, and a guy quick enough on the uptake these decades later to finally _guess_ she is a lesbian when she was stammering and stuttering over trying to break the big news to him. He was so understanding, they shared a sweet kiss. *throws the checklist away*

There is so much more to this story that those who have followed CC's shenanigans could add, but it is really overkill at this point. I am amazed and appalled that not only is she continually wading into arguments (or "convoys") on twitter that do not concern her, but that she can write a blog lacking all substance and then send out tweets that throw her "friend" MR under the bus and be hailed as clear-thinking and heroic. (Did she erase her tweets from last night yet insinuating that TPTB at Days and NBC might have a hand in keeping MR silent on the issue? For all of CC's nattering on about "Onward, Upward, Forward" she does seem to have a problem letting go when it comes to Days. I ask if the tweets are still there, because, in addition to blocking and unfollowing/refollowing/unfollowing, she does have a tendency to erase some of her more deliciously idiotic tweets. More's the pity. But then, the morning after does have that effect even on the most sober of us.)

Well, this has been good. For CC. Not so much for MR or for anyone who desires serious discussion of the related issues, but the publicity is something that CC could not buy. As she readies to film yet another webseries with a cast of dozens, her remaining fans/defenders/personal bully squad are revved up to open their wallets yet again. It's a fascinating experiment: how can CC get ever fewer people to support her badly written vanity projects? They buy shot glasses, panties, t-shirts, calendars and other merch; are sending gift cards for craft services; buy subscriptions; buy sponsorships; bid for walk-on parts for a butler and a maid who is "preferably of Spanish decent (sic)," and are waiting with bated breath for CC's soon to be (self-?)published memoir. Surely there are even more lucrative ways to Advocate out there. She just hasn't discovered them yet.

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Katheryn71, I was going to print them out and take them with me, but both of those links go to "Page Not Found". Oops.